We can do without our husbands but can’t do without our maids!!!
A statement heard by me when I spoke to couple of women I knew in my circle.
Isn’t this the reality??? Yes…
In today’s era, where there is a nuclear family instead of a joint family, where there are both working couples, where our normal relaxing life is replaced by a fast paced hectic, stressful life, life without maids is not imagined…
Nowadays families are so dependent on maids that we can’t imagine them even taking a day off and by chance if they do so, then we are doomed!
Who will do the dishes? Who will sweep and mop the floor? Who will cut the vegetables? Who will cook? Who will put the clothes on the line from the machine? Who will fold the dried clothes? And the list continues….
One of my friends told about the story of her maids:
My friend Priya, a mother of two, 4 and 6 yr old boys , lives in a 2 BHK house in Bangalore in Banshankhari with her husband. Both are working and they have 4 maids who visit their house. One for washing the dishes, one for cleaning and mopping, one cook and one for folding and ironing the clothes. It was a Friday when Priya was getting ready to go to office and her cleaning maid told her that she would not be able to come on Saturday and Sunday as she was going to her village to meet her grandma. Priya’s face fell as she got this news. She tried to tell the maid that 2 days would be too difficult for her to manage but in vain. Priya was thinking that its ok if one maid has taken a leave, she would tell any of the other to do the cleaning and mopping as Priya wanted to relax on a Saturday and Sunday after a hectic week. As Priya sat in an auto on her way to office, her phone rang. She looked at the number and her heart sank. It was her cook’s number. She picked up the phone to hear her cook telling her that someone had died in her family and she is leaving today and will not come till Tuesday. Priya literally wanted to shout at her and say “What the hell? Why so many days? But how can she shout she thought. Someone had died in the cook’s family. That’s a calamity. She just spoke” Try to come on Monday and kept the phone.
Priya was in a jovial mood on a Friday morning but in an hour’s time, her mood saddened. The whole 9 hours at the office went into thinking how would she manage the house on Saturday and Sunday…
Isn’t this story familiar? Don’t we at times, go through these situations?
We have so so so become dependent on our helps that we let our moods alter because of them. We should not let that happen. Because if we let this happen, then our Saturday and Sunday and not to forget, the Friday will be a hell!
One of my other friend narrated her story.
Pooja was a single mother of a girl Rhea who was 3 years old. She had kept one maid who came at 8 am and left at 7 pm at night. Pooja was working as a freelancer from her home so she stayed at home. Now this maid had 3 children and a drunk husband. Initially when Pooja kept this maid, the work was done very smartly and the maid took care of everything. Then after 3 months, the maid started to take leaves for 2 days frequently, which left Pooja to do all the house work and her official work too. She asked the maid one day about her leaves, to which the maid replied that her husband had thrown her and the kids out of the house and they had slept in the temple for 2 days. Pooja as being a mother, felt pity and gave some 5000 rupees to her maid as advance to take a small place on rent and also increased her salary. The maid thanked her and started coming regularly. After 3 months, one day the maid came beaten black and blue and told Pooja that her husband had taken 10,000 rupees from people and had drunk it all and these people came to her house and were asking for money and had beaten her up. After telling the maid that they can’t do that to her and telling her to tell the police, the maid said that she lives alone and they can do anything. The maid asked Pooja for some money and Pooja had to give Rs 10000 to her or else she would lose the maid.
The maid thanked her and told that Pooja was like a god to her and took the money and left.
That was the last Pooja saw of the maid. She tried to search for the maid on the address that the maid had given but that was the false address.
Doesn’t this story also seem familiar? Some of us have had such experiences with our maids…
But still we are dependent on them… they have become our necessity…
Funny, right? But a fact…
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Dr. Preeti Sharma
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